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Irreconcilable Differences
Posted by: | CommentsA couple that has been married for 17 years found that their differences are so significant they do not know if they can continue in their marriage. They wanted to know if anything can be done – I asked them, was your marriage healthy and grounded at the beginning? They replied with a resounding no.
They saw the Tree image and found that they were not living on the side of “life.” They now have the ability not to judge each other and hold them hostage. They also no longer blame the other party and now take responsibility for their actions. The couple is still not sure which direction they will fall in their marriage, however, they have agreed that no matter what happens that they do not want to damage the children and the relationship that they have with them.
Bill McGrane – McGrane Global Centers
Employer Issue
Posted by: | CommentsYears ago, a woman was invited to attend the five day program by a boyfriend because her self esteem was so low he knew she needed a boost. As a saleswoman, she received criticism from her peers and mentor at work so she put off coming to the program. She began to spiral downward, became disheveled and it became apparent that it was no longer negotiable to go to the program, shew KNEW she had to GO!!
Her unhealthy relationship with her father caused a nasty breakup and divorce with her first marriage as it too was unhealthy. Her husband, like her father, was controlling and did not allow her to be who she was created to be. Living with three children, her frustration increased to a point of being unbearable and she found out she was not grounded.
When she had completed the program, she found out who she really was and no longer was a people pleaser seeking unhealthy love.
However, the story does not end here…..
Bill McGrane – McGrane Global Centers
A couple’s story
Posted by: | CommentsThe professional couple entered the room with much anticipation. After just a few minutes, you could tell they were in love with each other but did not know how to communicate this to their counterpart. How did they get to the point of short tempers and lack of time together? After twenty years of marriage, their tanks were on empty and they did not know where to find a filling station.
This is where they began to learn the principle of value judging. You see, because they had unmet expectations, they walked in conditional love. This drained their relationship and each of them personally. The husband felft his wife wanted a luxurious lifestyle so he poured himself into his work and took on many responsibilities of other assignments to increase his income. This left his wife with the sole responsibility of the children and all house duties. Inside she cried for her children as she attended their sports games with an absent father. When the father missed one of his children’s most important life events, she cried knowing the time could never be made up…
All she really wanted was a husband and a father to be home so they could share in family events. All he wanted was to spend time with his family but could not because he felt trapped in his own world — the never ending vicious cycle.
When they identified the area of breakdown, they quickly apologized to each other and chose to love through the eyes of their hearts and not their heads.
Watching the transformation of years of anguish and disappointment into love and acceptance through these two individuals brought life to me – amazing me once again even after all these years of helping people mend their marriages.
Are you willing to take the risk of being uncomfortable to mend that broken relationship through one simple tool?
