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Jan
30

Bill McGrane speaks at Rotary Club

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Bill McGrane presentation

Bill McGrane presentation

The Way You Ask a Question Affects the Response! 

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re your communication skills getting you the results you want? Would you like to find ways to empower your ability to persuade? If you could improve one aspect of your communications skills, what would it be? Could asking questions and listening more skillfully make a difference for you?

Picture this: You walk into a department store, and while you’re making your way through the specialty kitchen section of the appliance area, you hear an older woman yelling. As you turn toward the customer service counter, where people can pay their local utility bills, you hear the women shouting, “How could my electric bill be so high? You’ve got to be kidding!” From the tone of her voice, you know immediately that an explosion is about to occur.

Across the aisle, you sit down in a lounge chair and act like a quiet little mouse. You’re curious to listen and see how this situation unfolds. You notice that the employees seem to suddenly become very busy with all kinds of activities except, that is, assisting this woman. They’ve obviously decided to ignore her and act as if nothing is happening.  Meanwhile, the older woman, who’s getting more agitated by the minute, is quickly walking around and around a nearby table, shouting in disbelief about her utility bill.  Everyone is well aware of what’s going on, but no one’s doing anything to help. Then a magic moment occurs—someone with the skill to resolve the issue is about to step in.

If you were faced with this situation, what would you do? What would be the first thing you’d say? Might it be appropriate to ask a question?

More tommorow on the rest of the story

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This morning I woke up to this powerful email from a person I am working with seeking help for her son, daughter in law and parents and I thought you would enjoy seeing the possibilities of what love and healing can do.
Bill,
Thank you again for calling today. I hope that you understood what I was trying to express tonight. I am sorry if I seemed to be challenging your ability to discern the truth; it was not that I underestimate your talent and gifts, it is just that I know firsthand the influence my husband has on people.
 
Bill, I wanted to let you know that I talked tonight with my daughter in law,  who is married to our middle son.  I believe that I mentioned to you that initially he has always been very close to his Dad and was very angry with me for leaving and disconnected for 6 months; he was angry and in denial and left town  to go to another state. That was the best thing as while away he began to see his father as he really is and witnessed his rages with others and in essence experienced his fathers wrath, vindictiveness and out of control behaviors. He became emotionally responsible for his Dad and took my place.
 
My son has now disconnected from that role as it was killing him inside and of course loves his Dad but has put up boundaries now that are healthier.
 
I mentioned to my sons wife my conversations with you and she thought it might be good for my son and his Dad to work together with you, if you felt that would be helpful.
 
In addition my daughter in laws parents are struggling with their marriage and she has been searching for a tool/program that might help them to reconnect. I told her that that is what you do and she felt that possibly she & my son could encourage them to do this with them and they might be open to that.   I recall you mentioning Bill you do weekend trainings away from home and if you want you could use our condo where you and Linda could work with them.
 
I told her that I would forward to her your website www.mcgrane.com info and your phone number
859-384-6333 as well but thought it might help to give you this little intro in the event she calls you will know who she is.  She is precious, new in her faith as she was raised in the church, and so wanting to grow in her walk and become the woman that God created her to be. You will love her. My son is brilliant, charismatic, tender but very strong and an incredible communicator. He is trying to learn what seeking God is all about. They were married in the last year.
 
In sharing them with you Bill I am entrusting you with my heart on another level, as my children are where my treasure is…I know you understand that. I hope that the Lord will use this introduction to bring connection and joy back into her parents lives. Her heart has been so burdened for them and they are wonderful people.
 
Thanks Bill and I look forward to speaking with you soon.
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Jan
04

Build momentum in your day

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How are you building momentum in your day?  Since this is probably your first day back at work from the holiday break, how is it going? 

Are you energized and getting back into things?  Or are you finding yourself dreading what will happen in your day.

The great news either way you are right.  If you do not like what is happening to you then make a choice now to make it different.

You say that is easier said then done.  I understand what you may be feeling, however you can turn it around with a question or thought.

Let’s start with the thought.  Write down what you are thinking right now.  Ask yourself does that thinking get you to where you want to go?  If not what new thought can you choose to move you in the direction you want to go?

Last night my home town football team, the Bengals lost 37-0 to the Gets.  Wow, what a blow to their thinking.  In just 6 days they have to play them again.  If you were their coach what suggestions would you give them to win next week?  My input to them would be, that was then, this is now.

In terms of a question to turn your thinking around try this,
what choice can I make  now that moves me into who and what you want to be?

Today I am working on plans for our Move Into Your Greatness seminar happening Jan. 11-15.   This is definitely a place you can be assured of success thinking and feeling.  Happy new thoughts.

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