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How do you look at those you love?
Posted by: | CommentsWhen you look at your loved ones, can they sense TUL (total unconditional love)?
You can say a lot, without saying anything at all. Nonverbal communication is very powerful and noticeable. If you are the type of person that does not have exceptional nonverbal communication skills, then I suggest working hard on improving them. The people you spend the most time with (family, friends, etc.) can pick up on negative nonverbal communication easily because they know you so well. That is why it is important to always practice positive nonverbal communication, even if you are having a bad day.
Looking at your loved ones with TUL can drastically improve their spirits and let them know that you truly love them. Be attentive when others are speaking, and even if you are not, seem genuinely interested. Look at your loved ones with passion and sincerity. Don’t let a bad day at the office carry over into your personal life. If you come home and are in a bad mood and don’t want to talk to your family, they feel like it is something they did wrong. Try to leave all thoughts of negativity and worries at the office or wherever their origins may be.
Just simply looking at your loved ones with TUL can strengthen your relationships and bring you more peace of mind. If you put yourself in a good mood, others will feed off of it and be in a good mood as well.
Put forth the effort to always send positive nonverbal communication signals to the ones you love, and everyone will benefit.
Practice TUL everyday!
Letting Go
Posted by: | CommentsOften our past dictates how we feel in the future.
If you have experienced a lot of pain and struggle, you may need to let go of your past. When people have numerous painful memories, it is hard to let go and be optimistic. People will get stuck in the mindset that nothing can go right. When confronted with a situation, people with a painful past will usually think to themselves that whatever can go wrong, will go wrong. These people are strong followers of Murphy’s Law. If you often feel this way, you need to change the way you think. See the glass as half full instead of half empty. Until you embrace the positive in life, you will be living a negative lifestyle that will weigh heavy on your emotions.
How are you supposed to live a happy and productive life when you expect the worst?
I was recently talking with someone who had a really hard past. He had gone through a lot and it was understandable for him to expect the worst out of life. I finally got him to replay positive messages in his head when confronted with a situation, instead of negative messages. Before, when a problem surfaced he would immediately think of the negative that could come out of the situation. Now the first thing he thinks about is what positive message can he derive from this situation. He is now happier and more productive since changing the way he handles different situations and confrontations.
Have you had a troubled past?
Is it hard for you to let go of your past?
Do you incorporated your troubled past into making decisions about your future?
Sometimes, we all need to let go of the pain. It does us absolutely no good to hold on to it. We need to replace the constant negative messages with positive ones.
If you let go of the pain, you only make more room for the joy.
New Beginnings
Posted by: | CommentsSpring is right around the corner.
Spring is my favorite season because to me, it symbolizes new beginnings.
There is no greater feeling than walking up to your front door and noticing the subtle beginning of your flowers coming in. Or waking up and watching the morning news and hearing the weather is going to be ABOVE 32 degrees for the first time in a while. The birds start to chirp again and life seems to get brighter. Everything gets a fresh new start after enduring the harsh winter.
Every spring, I try to start my own personal new beginnings. Often the cold, harsh, and dark winters can take a toll on people. “Seasonal Depression” is very real and affects each person differently. So if you have been stuck in an unproductive routine, use the start of spring as a kickstart to get you going. If you have been feeling depressed and sluggish, then start a new beginning. Walk around outside and enjoy this beautiful season.
So if the cold and dark Winter weather has got you feeling down, don’t worry because spring is here! It is the season for new life and new beginnings. Start yours today!
