Archive for happiness
Are You Happy?
Posted by: | CommentsWhat is the holiday season all about? Is it about receiving presents or is it about giving presents? Are you happiest when you are giving or receiving? What was your greatest gift to another person? What was the greatest gift you ever received? Do you still have that gift?
Each time you answered the above questions, you experienced some feelings. Many people have difficulty describing their feelings. Often they are afraid to be honest about their feelings because it makes them uncomfortable. Feelings are neither good or bad. They just “are.” During the holiday season we are exposed to all kinds of feelings. Some of those feelings are sadness, loneliness, happiness, and love.
Mary Tenoever, a graduate of our Self-Esteem Program, told me about a children’s book called, Feelings by Barbara Kay Polland. There are pictures of a frustrated child, a happy baby, a frightened little girl, and many others. Let’s look at the feelings of sadness. When do you feel sad? How do you show that you feel sad? Do people close to you feel sad? As you read the following words how do you feel?
Downcast
Glum
Grieved
Dejected
Depressed
Look in a mirror. Does your face show sadness? How do you release sadness?
Another feeling during the holiday season is loneliness. Do you ever feel lonely? Are you lonely when you are by yourself? Are you ever lonely at a party or in crowded places? Can you describe feelings of loneliness? Depression, fright, shyness, boredom, and withdrawal are words identified with loneliness. What do you do to stop feeling lonely?
Now, what about the feeling of happiness? Complete these sentences:
1. I am happy when…..
2. I show my happiness by…..
3. Other people are happy when…..
4. My happiest moments are…..
5. The happiest person I know is…..
Look at yourself in the mirror. Smile and look and feel happy.
Finally, how do you identify the feeling of love? Complete these sentences:
1. I love it when I…..
2. I love it when people…..
3. I show my love for people when…..
4. I describe love as…..
My definition of love is T.U.L. (Total Unconditional Love).
As you experience the holiday season and other times of the year invest in feelings of T.U.L. for yourself and everyone you meet. Start a feelings journal now and begin describing your feelings daily and then, watch what happens!
Have You Ever Designed Your Work?
Posted by: | CommentsDo you belong to the TGIM (Thank God It’s Monday) Club or do you belong to the TGIF (Thank God It’s Friday) Club? Do you belong to the IHTW (I Hate to Work) Club or the ILTW (I Love to Work) Club?
Research shows that 85% of Americans are unfulfilled at work. These individuals frequently seek fulfillment outside of the work
place. Answer the following questions and give yourself a work check up.
What is your work? Did you choose your work with a specific purpose in mind? How does your work relate to the outcomes of your office, department, or as a self- employed person? What do you like least about your work? What do you like most about your work? How would you like your work to be changed? How would you like management to treat you? What rewards do you get from your work besides money? Example of rewards may be: career development, a career mentor, personal development, friendships, sociability, or a sense of purpose.
What is your definition of service? How do you serve the public, customers, clients, co-workers or associates? Does your work require helping people? Do you help customers, clients, or associates? Is there anyone at work who needs your help? Do you need help from anyone? Will you accept the help others are willing to offer? Describe an example of when you have helped someone. If not at work – where?
Describe yourself. Who are you? What are you like? How well do you know yourself? What are your likes and dislikes? Do you know what you value? Can you describe your feelings and thoughts? If you had only six months to live, would you change anything in your life? What would you do? What do you want to leave behind to grow? What are your main satisfactions in life in and outside of work?
Name three people, living or dead, you most admire. What are your reasons for admiring them? What have you done to develop yourself? What does self-development mean to you? Do you get any help in developing yourself? Can you recall when and how you became interested in self-development? How would you like to develop yourself in and outside of work? Do you believe your present work could further your outcomes of self-development? What is your vision of the kind of person you would like to become? What is your ultimate ideal career?
I encourage you to answer these questions and design a work plan and then, watch what happens!
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