Archive for happiness
Do You Love Yourself?
Posted by: | CommentsDoes anyone ever ask you just what is Self-Esteem all about? Have you ever wondered about Self-Esteem? Have you noticed there is an increased interest in Self-Esteem? People and organizations are becoming more aware that when they add just a little more Self-Esteem, more potential and productivity are released.
Self-Esteem is the core of a person’s physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. Self-Esteem is the self respect you feel for yourself. You can instantly observe a person’s Self-Esteem by the way they treat you. The entire focus of Self-Esteem is on a very difficult word for many people – that word is love. First, love yourself. Then, and only then, can you love anyone else. In other words, you can give only what you have and no more!
In Modern Maturity magazine, Caroline Bird and clinical psychologist, Howard Newberger, were talking about aging and the need for love. They believe some people get into trouble because they fail to realize that love is a developmental relationship that can get broader. For example, as people progress in their loving relationships, they can allow more kinds of relationships in their lives. They can also develop deeper relationships through the years. Love of some kind is essential as long as we draw breath. It is something that we can always be learning. Is it possible, that with focus and practice, the older we get, the better we get at loving ourselves and others?
Caroline Bird says, “Love is the real thing and love is an active process. Love is the overflow of our fulfillment that we give to others, to keep them in their fulfillment. There are four steps to love:
1. Loving yourself.
2. Choosing someone to love.
3. Finding out what that person needs.
4. Doing something about it.”
The most challenging part is loving yourself. I believe there is no better way to age gracefully than to develop your Self-Esteem. The reason people and organizations strive to learn more about Self-Esteem is so they can take quantum leaps.
There you have it. Develop your Self-Esteem daily. Then you will love yourself. This is your best guarantee of success, happiness, and aging gracefully.
Take action now with your Self-Esteem and then, watch what happens!
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Are You Happy?
Posted by: | CommentsIs it easy for you to make up your mind? When you make a decision do you take action and fulfill your promise to yourself? Do other people know that about you? Would others say you are decisive and you act on your decisions?
Sparky Anderson, former Cincinnati Reds manager, predicted that Pete Rose would break Ty Cobb’s record of 4,191 hits because Pete had the desire. He had made a decision to play baseball until he created the new record. Pete had the skill, durability, and mental toughness. He played until he surpassed the record. When Pete obtained his outcome of breaking the record he was very happy and fulfilled.
How about you? Have you made up your mind to be happy? Evaluate these suggestions to determine if you are a happy person:
1. Decide what you want in order to be happy. Do you feel things, like a car or home, will make you happy? Do you feel people, like family or friends, will make you happy? Or will you make you happy?
2. Can you describe the challenges you may face during the process of becoming a happy person?
3. What are the payoffs for being happy? Will you be healthier, wealthier, or wiser?
4. How many options can you develop daily to move closer to happiness?
5. Once you choose your alternative, will you decide to put it into practice?
6. Will you support yourself in carrying out your new decision? Will you have sustained energy?
It is important to remember that a wish and a decision are not the same thing. As you intensify your action program, will you focus on each step necessary to reach your outcome to be happy? Think of all of your habits. Are there any you want to change? Once you decide to start a new habit then you can take action. With spaced repetition, you acquire new behavior. Your old habit will eventually fade away.
As you decide to be happy, there could be times when you prefer to be unhappy. That happens sometimes. Handle your unhappy feelings and then move forward again. Happiness is a state of mind. Nothing, no person, and no experience can make you happy. Happiness is a do-it-yourself, inside job. Decide now to be happy and then, watch what happens!
Are You Happy?
Posted by: | CommentsWhat is the holiday season all about? Is it about receiving presents or is it about giving presents? Are you happiest when you are giving or receiving? What was your greatest gift to another person? What was the greatest gift you ever received? Do you still have that gift?
Each time you answered the above questions, you experienced some feelings. Many people have difficulty describing their feelings. Often they are afraid to be honest about their feelings because it makes them uncomfortable. Feelings are neither good or bad. They just “are.” During the holiday season we are exposed to all kinds of feelings. Some of those feelings are sadness, loneliness, happiness, and love.
Mary Tenoever, a graduate of our Self-Esteem Program, told me about a children’s book called, Feelings by Barbara Kay Polland. There are pictures of a frustrated child, a happy baby, a frightened little girl, and many others. Let’s look at the feelings of sadness. When do you feel sad? How do you show that you feel sad? Do people close to you feel sad? As you read the following words how do you feel?
Downcast
Glum
Grieved
Dejected
Depressed
Look in a mirror. Does your face show sadness? How do you release sadness?
Another feeling during the holiday season is loneliness. Do you ever feel lonely? Are you lonely when you are by yourself? Are you ever lonely at a party or in crowded places? Can you describe feelings of loneliness? Depression, fright, shyness, boredom, and withdrawal are words identified with loneliness. What do you do to stop feeling lonely?
Now, what about the feeling of happiness? Complete these sentences:
1. I am happy when…..
2. I show my happiness by…..
3. Other people are happy when…..
4. My happiest moments are…..
5. The happiest person I know is…..
Look at yourself in the mirror. Smile and look and feel happy.
Finally, how do you identify the feeling of love? Complete these sentences:
1. I love it when I…..
2. I love it when people…..
3. I show my love for people when…..
4. I describe love as…..
My definition of love is T.U.L. (Total Unconditional Love).
As you experience the holiday season and other times of the year invest in feelings of T.U.L. for yourself and everyone you meet. Start a feelings journal now and begin describing your feelings daily and then, watch what happens!
