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Do You Help Others Feel Important?
Posted by: | CommentsHave you noticed how many companies have reduced their names to initials? Here are some examples: International Business Machine uses IBM; National Broadcasting Company uses NBC; and National Cash Register uses NCR. That concept is called ephemeralization which means “less is more.” In other words, it is easier to remember IBM, NBC and NCR.
With that idea in mind, I would like to introduce you to IWTFI. This means, “I want to feel important”. Sidney Simon has researched the importance of values in our life. He said that IWTFI is something we need every day and we each havethios inside of us. Dr. Simon also says, “Self-Esteem is the bottom line for success.” I believe that Self-Esteem is the first ingredient for success and for fulfilling IWTFI.
As you watch the television news, listen to the radio, and look at the latest news magazines, do you observe the behavior of people daily? As you listen to the often tense conversations about the issues of the day (like abortion and euthanasia) do you immediately identify these as being Self-Esteem issues? Everyone wants IWTFI. It is one ingredient that is needed to help people make the best choices daily. However, if you were criticized and put down as a child, your tendency may be to criticize yourself and others as an adult.
When I meet people each day, I observe them to see if they know about IWTFI. It takes less than two minutes to notice this. You will know a person’s IWTFI by their behavior. A person with IWTFI will be open, smile, be genuinely interested in you, have a great hand shake, keep eye contact, listen and hear what you are saying, and ask questions. Starting now, practice these qualities of IWTFI with everyone you meet. You will have more in-depth conversations and may discover the uniqueness of each person you meet. As you use the IWTFI qualities, you will be exposing and enhancing your own IWTFI.
Give the next five people you meet some of your IWTFI. Make them feel important when they are with you and then,watch what happens!
The Tree of Self-Esteem flourishes from love and acceptance of oneself, while the Tree of Self-Image dies from hatred, judging and comparison. Is depression robbing your garden of life?
Suggested Questions as Interviewer and Interviewee Part 3
Posted by: | Comments(All questions need to be layered (properly placed) and
appropriately paced. The questions with a * need to be asked after rapport has been established. They help you discover Prime Movers.)
1. Tell me about yourself.
2. Tell me about your company/organization.
3. What is happiness for you?
4. How would you describe your energy level?
5. Do you have a mentor?
6. What are your greatest skills?
7. What does “the good life” mean to you?
8. Trace your career path from college to the present time.
9. What are your top five priorities?
10. What is the latest date you have decided to retire?
11. What does success mean to you?
12. What do you like best about your current job? (or last job?)
13. What do you like least about your current job? (or last job?)
14. What would you like to change?
15. Do you exercise regularly?
16. What are your company’s/organization’s goals?
17. What are your personal goals?
18. What death issue (something that causes the reducion or death of a
company) has your company/organization faced this year?
19. Do you take regular vacations?
20. How is your health?
21. Do you participate in community activities?
22. What qualities do you like best in an employee? (employer?)
23. What do you like best about yourself?
24. What would you like to look back on as your greatest success?
25. Have you planned the rest of your life?
26. How many dead-end jobs are in the company/organization?
*27. How effective are you now?
*28. How much of your own money have you invested
in your personal development in the past twelve
months and for what specific purpose?
*29. How do you evaluate your effectiveness?
*30. Where do you want to be positioned in the future
in terms of responsibilities and rewards?
*31. Do you get the support you need for the things you
want to do?
*32. What use are you making of your knowledge about yourself?
*33. What is your attitude towards responsibilities, risks and rewards?
*34. What was your biggest failure?
As an interviewee, remember to ask how long the interview will be and then use half of the time to ask your own questions. How you are treated during an interview will give you an idea of how you will be treated when employed or associated with that person or business. Don’ t settle for less! You deserve the best!
How do you handle an issue with your neighbor?
Posted by: | CommentsDo you have an issue with one of your neighbors that is causing you to
not speak with them or avoid them? If so may I suggest you experience the difference between confronting vs “carefronting”.
Confronting is attacking the person and possibly leaving dead bodies. Carefronting is caring enough to talk about the delicate subjects.
Release assuming or making judgments. Go to the source instead of believing rumors. Stop the gossip and talk with the person who can do
something about it instead of everyone else who can not change the situation.
Treat people with dignity and respect. Make the person and the relationship more important then the property or issue.
What neighbor stories do you have?
