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Trouble…
Posted by: | CommentsA mother of a college student recently ran into a friend of hers who had completed the Move into your Greatness program. The mother was explaining to her friend how her son had gotten into “some trouble” at school and they have all gone through two years of court activity and legal hassel. The mother explained that the son had become overwhelmed and depressed through the process and she did not know what to do for him or even where to turn for help.
The friend passed the mother our number and we quickly assessed the situation and developed a plan. The son has agreed to attend the Moving into your Greatness program and mom is feeling hope and joy in her heart that this may be the best Christmas the family has had in years. More to come on this story as it unfolds…. until then, the lesson is this: if you identify a need and put attention toward it, divine providence moves to give you what you need.
An Often Not-So-Honest Environment
Posted by: | CommentsIn business today, or in any relationship, are you finding that people are not really saying what is on their minds? Do you find that the environment is often not conducive for them to feel comfortable sharing their points of view? They may say, “I’m not going to tell anyone what I think; I might lose my job. What if we downsize? I’m older than most of you.” As a result, we are having to pay a big price in our government, institutions, and organizations. We may placate people and try to make them believe and feel something that is not reality – to keep them in line and under our control. Yet, with the skill of interviewing questions and a sincerely concerned attitude, we could discover everyone’s point of view and take it into consideration. We could then creatively find a point of view that could serve everyone, and possibly find solutions to some, perhaps, longstanding issues.
Questions….
Posted by: | CommentsQuestions tell others you care enough about them to take the time to learn more about them, what they’re feeling, what they need. You can shine a light of caring and love over them by asking questions. When your self-esteem is healthy, you’ll find yourself using questions to uplift and encourage the poeple around you. Then watch what happens! People will come alive and love you for making it happen.
There is definitely an art to asking questions – of yourself as well as others. You can ask yourself appropriate, effective questions to help you get the outcomes you want in your personal and professional relationships. The questions you ask yourself and how effectively you answer them determines the degree to which you’ll be able to ask effective questions of others.
My father, William J. McGrane, Jr., was a master teacher. His life was filled with his own emotional pain and problematic self-esteem and because of what he observed and experienced he constantly asked himself two questions: “Why do I and others hurt so much, and what can be done about it?” As a result, he embarked on a life-long quest researching self-esteem, beginning when he was a senior in high school Dad knew there had to be an answer to what was causing him so much pain.
In college, he learned that words had power and soon became a wordsmith. He began abusing their power, using them inappropriately-increasingly intimidating those around him. He would feel powerful for a moment, yet his pain would only increase, driving him to search for a way to relieve it.
He finally discovered the missing piece was value judging. He had been comparing his value to that of others and this can injure or destroy self esteem.
Have you compared yourself with others and the outcomes they have? Do you struggle daily with knowing who you are? Take a look inside and ask yourself if you have been showing love and respect to yourself…. this is the first step to healing the pain.
