If you can’t answer YES to all of the following questions….Then love just might be a foreign language to you.
 
• Do you know how to recognize when you are loved totally and unconditionally?

• Do you know why it is important to love and be loved?  Are you aware of the ways you can demonstrate your love?

How Do You Create the Language of Love?
        
What is the language of love?  How do you know when you are loved totally and unconditionally?  Is it important to love and be loved?  Are you aware of the ways you demonstrate your love?  Can you love everyone you meet?  How do you create the language of love?

Make Your Presence Powerful

First, acknowledge each person you meet.  Give eye contact and use the person’s favorite word - their name!  This is music to their ears.  In addition, give people your undivided attention.  Listen and hear what they have to say.  When was the last time someone really listened to you?  Listening is loving.

Second, appreciate people.  Recognize their existence and presence.  “Start where people are, not where you want them to be.”  “Move in and out of their world on their terms not yours.”  This is the best way to connect with people.  They feel special when they know that someone is really appreciating where they are coming from.

The third simple step is to give affirmation.  An affirmation is a declaration to set in motion a way of being.  Affirmation comes from the Latin affirmare and means to make firm.  Thomas Kane, in his book Happy Are You Who Affirm says, “The healing touch of affirmation means I encourage persons to BE who they are, immaturity and shortcomings included, so that their potential may BE realized.”  Find qualities in people that serve them and give affirmation.  For example, “Michael, you a sensitive person and I congratulate you on how you help others.”  Be specific when giving and affirmation.  Give them freely, daily and then watch what happens!    

Bill McGrane is President of the McGrane Global Centers creators of the Making it Happen and Move Into Your Greatness. The Centers offers, keynotes, seminars, consulting and products that improve individual and organizational performance. You can create highly responsible teams and produce a culture of responsibility.  Call 859-384-6333 or mcgrane@mcgrane.com or view our web site at www.mcgrane.com.