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Forgiveness
Posted by: | CommentsIs there someone in your life that wronged you and because of that your relationship with them became strained or ended? Has that person expressed regret for their actions, but your relationship with them is still in turmoil?
If you answered yes to both of those questions then you probably haven’t truly forgiven that person.
Many people do or say things they regret, that end up hurting someone they care about. This could be because they didn’t think things through, or maybe because they too are hurting and they lashed out as way to try and alleviate their pain.
It is important to understand that everyone makes mistakes. Exercising forgiveness and giving someone a second chance can save what could be or already was a meaningful relationship.
It is not healthy to carry resentment and anger in your heart. These negative emotions can lead to stress and possibly depression. At the same time it’s not easy to forgive, it takes courage to give someone a second chance because you possibly risk being hurt again. But if you don’t give them the benefit of the doubt you could end up losing something very precious. Anyone can carry resentment, but it takes great strength and a true test of character to forgive.
Forgiveness leads to personal growth and could even raise your self-esteem. So why not try and forgive? You might just like what you find.
Remember to treat people with TUL, Total Unconditional Love, and Have a great day!
What Is Love?
Posted by: | CommentsWhat does Valentine’s Day mean to you? Is it a commercial day to sell candy, flowers, and greeting cards? Or, is it a reminder to say, “I love you!” to our loved ones? What is your definition of love? Love is T.U.L. (Total Unconditional Love).
Loving implies a willingness to love someone as they are; it is not contingent on their becoming what we desire them to be. People were not put on this earth for our happiness and convenience. When we love someone we enjoy watching them accomplish the outcomes they want daily. We also enjoy when they interact successfully with others. We want them to succeed, and to find the joy and the peace they are seeking. We want them to BE all that they can BE. We do everything to enhance that possibility.
When we love someone and they love us, we feel comfortable with them. There is no need to always be on our best behavior to be accepted; no need for games, or one-upmanship. We know we love someone when we are as willing to accept their undeveloped skills as well as we accept their developed skills. No one can satisfy our every need or be the perfect spouse, parent, friend, etc.. When we accept that fact, we stop trying to redesign each other in the name of love. Then we see more of their potential and serve them in their own self-discovery.
Our ability to love is equal to our ability to forgive. We are lovers to the degree we are willing to forgive and continue the process of loving. Forgiving is forgiving!
People who love have intact Self-Esteem. They value everyone they meet. We can only love others based on the way we love ourselves. You can only give what you have.
Love is T.U.L. (Total Unconditional Love). So no matter what you think, say, do, or feel, you are still lovable and capable – and so is everyone else. However, you are still responsible for everything you think, say, do, and feel – and so is everyone else. T.U.L. gives you the loving support to make mistakes, as you are in the Lifelong Learning Process. You can usually correct for error now or in the future.
Decide now to tell your mother, your father, your spouse, your children, your friends and others that you love them and then, watch what happens!
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“I now give T.U.L. to everyone I meet.” |
