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What Are Your Values?
Posted by: | CommentsHow do you feel about the conflict that exists in the world? If you look at it, you will recognize that conflict results from opposing values. Everyone has a set of values. These are intense beliefs about specific ideas, people, or situations. For example, if I say, “All violence is a request for love” – there could be some people with a different point of view who may not agree.
Do you recall the nuclear reactor meltdown situation that occurred many years ago in Russia? The Russians kept this information secret. This is an example of values conflict. Over 3,000 people from Sweden had consequences because of radioactive fallout.
The value of life is an important issue for many people. Every day you make values’ choices that trigger pain or pleasure. The people you associate with is a values’ choice. The person you marry is a values’ choice. The work you do is a values’ choice. Where you live is a values’ choice. The causes you work for is a values’ choice. How we treat others is a values’ choice. Our behavior tells the world our values.
There are universal values such as peace, honesty, and integrity. Two ultimate values are wisdom and love. Our values are set early in childhood. Research shows that by age 10 we have well defined values. After age 10 we are bombarded with invitations to change our values. Television, magazines, newspapers, and other people may influence our values. So our values are subject to change.
There are four value systems. First, there is the Challenger values system. These people are very self-centered. Next is the In-Betweener values system. These people have difficulty making decisions. Third, there is the Traditional values system which is based on a system of principles. Finally there is the Synthesis values system. These people can get along with anyone. They are clear. They are leaders. They have integrity. Only 2% of the population are in the Synthesis Value System. It takes intact Self-Esteem to reach the Synthesis Values System.
When our values are clear, decision making is easy. Values clarification is a life long process. Only your Self-Esteem can create clarity.
Observe the ongoing scenario of your life, make your own values decision, and then, watch what happens!
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Do You Evaluate Your Behavior?
Posted by: | CommentsWould you like to play a Self-Esteem “true or false” game? Write your answers of “true” or “false” on a piece of paper. Here we go.
1. I had intact Self-Esteem when I was born.
2. My present Self-Esteem was created by significant others in my life.
3. My present attitudes are affirming or unaffirming,based on the role models in my life.
4. The definition of Self-Esteem is the way I feel about myself.
5. My ability to describe my feelings helps me to reduce tension and distress.
6. My ability to listen to others is an indication of mySelf-Esteem.
7. Finality statements kill Self-Esteem communication.
8. Finishing sentences for others is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
9. Interrupting others is a sign of unintact Self-Esteem.
10. Criticizing others shows unintact Self-Esteem.
11. Putting people down is an unintact Self-Esteem choice.
12. Name calling demonstrates unintact Self-Esteem.
13. Labeling other people is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
14. Comparing yourself with others harms your Self-Esteem.
15. Trying to prove yourself to other people is a sign of unintact Self-Esteem.
16. Avoiding responsibility for everything you think, say, do or feel is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
17. Getting drunk is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
18. Dependency on drugs is a sign of unintact Self-Esteem.
19. Depending on others for your ‘feel good’ is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
20. Choosing to be healthy is an intact Self-Esteem choice.
21. Choosing to be sick is an unintact Self-Esteem choice.
22. Shyness is a sign of unintact Self-Esteem.
23. Depressing feelings is a sign of unintact Self-Esteem.
24. Enthusiasm and a zest for life is intact Self-Esteem behavior.
25. Overeating is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
26. Obesity and being overweight is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
27. Procrastination shows unintact Self-Esteem.
28. Inability to make decisions is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
29. Building and maintaining relationships is a sign of intact Self-Esteem.
30. Releasing your full potential is intact Self-Esteem behavior.
31. Holding grudges is unintact Self-Esteem behavior.
32. Fear of speaking in groups is a sign of unintact Self-Esteem.
33. Career unhappiness reflects unintact Self-Esteem.
34. Complimenting people is intact Self-Esteem behavior.
35. Creating an affirming lifestyle is intact Self-Esteem behavior.
36. Giving recognition to others is intact Self-Esteem behavior.
If you said “true” to each of these statements, you deserve 100%. And this is what you deserve with your Self-Esteem every day.
Review your behavior daily to discover if it helps create intact Self-Esteem in yourself and others and then, watch what happens!
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How Is Your Creativity?
Posted by: | CommentsAre you creative? How convinced are you that your attitudes and Self-Esteem help you to be more creative? Would you like to improve your creativity? Here are some ways to do just that:
1. Invest in a creative journal. Write your ideas in the journal daily. Keep track of your ideas at all times. Carry a notebook wherever you go. Keep a notebook beside your bed. Ideas can come at strange times. Frequently, ideas come when we least expect them. The same idea may never come again. So, it is important to make a record of each idea right away. To facilitate this, you may want to carry a notepad and pen or micro-cassette recorder with you at all times. Listen to your hunches and intuitions, particularly during moments of relaxation – before going to sleep or upon awakening.
2. Ask new questions every day. A curious mind is a creatively active mind.
3. Learn about things outside of your specialty.
4. Be flexible. Notice your patterns of behavior. Find several solutions to each challenge. Discover new viewing points.
5. Be open and receptive to ideas. They can be fragile. Listen to them. Freely entertain apparently wild, far-fetched, or even silly ideas. This is part of the creative process.
6. Be alert in observation. Look for similarities, differences and unique and distinguishing features in objects, situations, processes, and ideas. The more new associations and relationships you can form, the greater your chances are of coming up with really creative and original combinations and solutions.
7. Engage in hobbies, especially those that allow you to construct or produce something with your hands. Also, keep your brain trim by playing games, doing puzzles, and mental exercises.
8. Improve your sense of humor. Laugh easily. Humor relieves tension. You are more creative when you are relaxed.
9. Adopt a challenge-taking attitude. Nothing is more fatal to creativity than fear of failure.
So there you have it. Invest in your Self-Esteem to become more creative in your relationships and career and then, watch what happens!
