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The Cab Ride
Posted by: | CommentsA story for your pleasure…
I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes
walked to the door and knocked.. ‘Just a minute’, answered a frail, elderly
voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.
After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90′s stood before
me. She was wearing a
print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned
on it, like somebody out of a 1940′s movie.
By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one
had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.
There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the
counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and
glassware.
‘Would you carry my bag out to the car?’ she said. I took the suitcase to
the cab, then returned to assist the woman.
She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me
for my kindness. ‘It’s nothing’, I told her.. ‘I just try to treat my
passengers
the way I would want my mother treated’.
‘Oh, you’re such a good boy’, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me
an address and then asked, ‘Could you drive through downtown?’
‘It’s not the shortest way,’ I answered quickly..
‘Oh, I don’t mind,’ she said. ‘I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice’.
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. ‘I don’t have
any family left,’ she continued in a soft voice.. ‘The doctor says I don’t
have very
long.’ I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.
‘What route would you like me to take?’ I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the
building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.
We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when
they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse
that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner
and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, ‘I’m
tired. Let’s go now’.
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building,
like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a
portico.
Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were
solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been
expecting her.
I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was
already seated in a wheelchair.
‘How much do I owe you?’ she asked, reaching into her purse.
‘Nothing,’ I said.
‘You have to make a living,’ she answered.
‘There are other passengers,’ I responded.
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me
tightly.
‘You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,’ she
said. ‘Thank you.’
I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me,
a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove
aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk.
What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to
end his shift?
What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked
once, then driven away?
On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in
my life.
We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve
around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully
wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY
WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID ~YET~THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE
THEM
FEEL.
Creating Neoteony
Posted by: | CommentsCreating neoteony in your life will bring an abundance of benefits. The term neoteony means maintaining playful, childlike but not childish, qualities all the days of your life. Letting loose every once in awhile and enjoying all the beautiful things this world has to offer us is essential in maintaining a healthy life. Creating more neoteony will keep you and those around you youthful and full of energy. All of this powerful energy will make you less susceptible to becoming a breeding ground for negative emotions. Your joyful and loving personality will become infectious to your family, friends, and co-workers.
Are you always stressed out because of work or family life? We all get to a point in our lives where we just aren’t as happy as we would like to be. If you are not as happy as you would like to be, try to have more fun in your daily life. Once you begin to incorporate a personality full of joy and playfulness, you will become a happier person and value life more. You will have a completely different outlook on things and eventually, start enjoying the activites you used to love to do again. Your family will enjoy being around you more and in return build stronger relationships with them. You notice your self transforming into a more pleasant person to be around, and those who spend a lot of time with you (friends, co-workers, etc.) will start to notice a difference.
There are many ways to create neoteony in your life. It is going to take dedication, hard-work, and creativity on your part to come up with effective ways to create more joy and fun in you and your family’s lives. You should start by finding or reigniting your passions. What do you love to do? What can you spend hours on without becoming bored? Find these activities and engage yourself in them. Also, you should learn what those around you are passionate about. If your kids are really into science or history, then schedule a trip to a museum or zoo. If your family is very active family, then take them on a hike or a bike ride on a cool summer night. Become more active with your family and be engaging. Throw out ideas of activities to do together and see if anything registers with them. Offer to play a board game or watch a movie, anything is fine just make sure you are involved. Take your spouse out for a special evening of dinner and dancing. Do something you have never done before but always dreamed of.
There are so many ways to become more joyful and happier, we just need to dedicate ourselves to finding them. Creating more neoteony in your life will go along way and create strong bonds with those you love. So start today. Become more playful and happy and see what happens. We can all use more joy in today’s world.
Leave some comments on how you can create more neoteony in your life.
