Archive for February, 2010
Are you present to the moment and each person in the moment?
Posted by: | CommentsBeing present to the moment and the people associated with that moment is something people tend to underestimate.
Have you ever entered a new situation or conversation and there was somebody trying their hardest to NOT communicate or acknowledge you either through verbal or non verbal interaction?
Did it make you feel unimportant or undeserved?
Today, pay attention to the brief interactions that happen throughout your day. Try and notice if someone is not fully present in the moment. Take a step back and evaluate your own interactions with people. Are you as present as you should be? Do you acknowledge someone when they enter the room or conversation or do you not even make eye contact and ignore their presence?
Sometimes the simplest of acknowledgment has a tremendous positive impact on someone’s psyche and the opposite is true when you simply don’t acknowledge someone as well. When you go out of your way to overlook or avoid someone, it belittles them and makes them feel insignificant and meaningless. It also thwarts your ability to establish new friendships with the people around you.
What can you do to be more present to the moment and the people in the moment?
Start by allowing yourself to be open to new situations and new friendships. Let your guard down a little bit. Make a point to acknowledge every person in the conversation or situation. You don’t have to go over the top and ask for their life story, but a simple hello or even eye-contact accompanied with a smile will do. Be present. Be active in conversation. Don’t be short with your answers. If someone is taking the time to try and get to know you, then let them in your world a little bit. You don’t have to spill your guts to them, but be polite and say something more than “yes” or “no”. In doing this, your relationships will grow stronger and you will make people feel better about themselves. No one wants to feel slighted.
If you notice that someone else habitually isn’t present to the moment and the people in the moment, try and engage them in small conversation. See if they will open up and be a little friendlier. You don’t have to be an investigative reporter, but you also don’t want to just sit there and let life pass you by.
Are you present to the moment and the people in the moment?
What situations have you been in that you noticed someone that wasn’t present to the moment?
How did it make you feel?
Create love and respect.
Posted by: | CommentsIf you put forth a little more effort each day to create love and respect, you will touch many people.
Unfortunately, people get so busy with everything they need to accomplish for the day that they neglect certain things. They get so wrapped up in their daily duties and lives that they don’t see what is going on around them. They could be in a cold, distant, and disrespectful relationship or situation and not notice just how bad it is.
That is why each day it is important to work on creating love and respect. At work, you could be more polite and attentive to other people in the office to create respect. The easiest way to get respect, is show respect. When a small group of people mutually respect each other, they work better together and the day is a lot more pleasant. Small things go along way in showing someone respect. When you are around someone for a significant period of time, you learn there general likes and dislikes and what irritates them. Try to accommodate others and you will see the work day become easier to manage.
At home, you should always be trying to create love and respect. Expressing love and respect can be difficult for some. Don’t be afraid to open up to your loved ones and show them just how much you appreciate them. Sometimes people will assume their family members know exactly how they feel but really it is the complete opposite. If you haven’t expressed deep love and respect for a long time, the feeling can die down. Tell them just how much they mean to you. Come up with creative ways to show your true feelings. One simple act of love or respect a day may be just what someone needs to get them through their day.
Each day is a busy adventure. Don’t forget to make time for love and respect.
Set a positive mindset for the day
Posted by: | CommentsDo you ever wake up and instantly know that your day is going to be a rough one?
It usually happens to me on Mondays or after going through something difficult. My productivity level for the day is affected from the minute I wake up because of my mindset. Some days I am not 100% committed to being the best that I can be. When I have a bad mindset, it affects me physically as well. I feel slow and sluggish throughout the day. I find myself anxiously awaiting the end of the day and not giving enough attention to my work and other things. Unfortunately, a cup of coffee doesn’t fix this for me either.
To avoid such feelings, every morning I set a positive mindset for the day. In the morning, as I am doing my daily routines, I think to myself how blessed I am. Instead of dreading the upcoming work day, I accept it and think of ways to maximize my potential and the smoothest way of doing so. I start by clearing my mind of all distractions. I then think of all the positive things I have going for me at work and home instead of all the hardships and negative things. This puts my mind in a state where I am grateful and happy which enables me to stay motivated throughout the day.
Once I have cleared my mind of any negative bearings and replace them with positive ones, I will make a rough draft of my agenda for the day. Nothing too complex. Just what I would like to get accomplished for the day. This allows me to manage my time wisely so I can get everything that needs to be done, done. This helps me because it smooths my day out. If I leave enough time to comfortably get my tasks completed and stay motivated, then I don’t have to rush to complete things. The quality of my overall work improves and so does the way I feel at the end of the day.
So tomorrow morning, as you are having your breakfast, set a positive mindset. Clear your mind of everything weighing heavy on you and realize that everyday is a blessing. Replace your negative and worrisome thoughts with positive and productive ones. Plan your day out and leave yourself enough time to accomplish your goals for the day. This will slow your day down slightly and won’t have you rushing around as much. When you start to feel your positive mindset slip away from you throughout the day, take a break and center yourself. Clear your mind and replace any negative thoughts with positive ones.
I know this is easier said than done. You need to practice everyday at clearing your mind of anything that binds you and set a positive mindset so it become second nature. You will see improvements at work and at home. You will feel more energized throughout the day and will accomplish more as well.
Remember, everyday is a blessing. Yesterday, today, and tomorrow.
