Archive for December, 2008
Whole man behavior Part 2
Posted by: | CommentsLook at your own relationship. What would thinking and behaving like that do for the two of you? You do that every day. It’s something I call the “sit in” philosophy. You are driving down the road and you begin to have some strong feelings. What would it be like if you said something like this, “Honey I really want to be close with you and right now because of the way this conversation is going, but I am not feeling as close to you as I would like to. Are you feeling as close to me as you would like to?”
Of course, she may replay “What the heck does it have to do with the conversation we’re having right now? I am just talking to you about XYZ.”
You continue to sort out your feelings with your loved one, because this is what we call “Whole Man behavior.” Are you just giving your pain and hurt or are you able to share your true feelings? Go into yourself and share what is inside, instead of commenting on the other person’s behavior. Speaking honestly creates warm feelings and opens you up to more conversation. Isn’t that what you want?
A woman is more responsive to intimacy when she sees you respecting her and going out of your way to make her and the relationship important. Of course, both are responsible for creating the intimacy that both of you want in your sexuality, in your communication, in your daily activities with each other.
Whole man behavior
Posted by: | CommentsIn a mature relationship, do you have what it takes to be a “whole man?” A “whole man” is defined by your behaviors. Ask yourself:
• Of the two of you, who is the most nostalgic and romantic one?
• Who is the memorabilia person?
• Who is the one who would reflect on the joys and the treasures of your relationship?
When Linda and I decided to have a relationship, I remember looking in her eyes and seeing that excitement and recalling my excitement about what the possibilities would be with each other. I asked her one day if she remembered that. She looked at me and then, all of a sudden, a joyful smile crossed her face and with it, brought warm feelings back to me as well. In that moment we had a the joyful moment right then and there.
That is just one way of affirming a person. Recalling treasured memories and building upon them each day. How would this type of behavior impact your own relationship? A simple conversation easily stimulates intimacy in conversation.
The Choices We Make Determine the Direction of Our life
Posted by: | CommentsChoices — we make them every day. Or do we? That is, do we make them consciously, or are most of our choices automatic? Making choices consciously is how we can change our lives. How can we make choices consciously and in ways that best utilize and enhance our Self-Esteem?
Let’s begin by defining what we mean by “choice”. Is a choice the same as a decision? Many people make a distinction between them. Some decisions are “BIG”: “Shall we buy that new house in the better school district?”; “Shall I take that new job?”; or “Is it best for my company to market Product A or Product B?” The word “Decision” sounds so FINAL, as though there is no going back once the decision has been made.
Other choices often seem so much simpler, like “Shall I have dessert?” or “What golf club shall I use for this shot?” These type of choices appear to have less effect on our lives. They may be more open-ended and we know we can always do it over again.
Nevertheless, choices and decisions involve the same process. We weigh alternatives (sometimes not for very long) and then we take an action. Choices still affect the outcomes of our lives. Read More→
