Archive for November, 2008
Ten tips for Single Parents Dating
Posted by: | CommentsEven the best plans can change and you can find yourself as a single parent. You’re not the first and won’t be the last. Here are a few tips to navigate you through this life-changing time in your life.
1. Keep children out of relationships until you are certain the relationship is going somewhere. Set a specific time to date and specific time to have one-on-one time with children for fun.
2. Watch your behavior, as this is what children develop. Would you want the child to have this behavior?
3. Teach the child to respect the new mate.
4. Understand the role the new person is filling for the child. This is a different role for the child than it is for you.
5. It is important for parents to speak respectfully of the other parent. Do not diminish the other parent.
6. The new person in the child’s life needs to have positive language towards both parents. No judgmental conversation.
7. Deal with conflict privately.
8. Make certain the child is not in the middle and not forced to take sides.
9. Keep your word and be honest with the child.
10. Don’t try to compensate with money what the relationship is missing.
Bill McGrane is President of the McGrane Global Centers creators of the Making it Happen and Move Into Your Greatness. The Centers offers, keynotes, seminars, consulting and products that improve individual and organizational performance. You can create highly responsible teams and produce a culture of responsibility.
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Time to Hit the Refresh Button!
Posted by: | CommentsIt’s easy to fall into the same thought process trap that leads to unproductive outcomes. The first step in breaking the cycle is to identify the myriad of thoughts and feelings and weigh them against what you really want. Sometimes we have to “Hit the Refresh Button” in our minds in order to get past the our own “locked up computer.”
How to reframe a thought – experience or situation
1. Notice what your thinking , feeling, experiencing.
2. Ask yourself “Do I want to continue?”
What am I thinking, feeling, experiencing and will I get the outcome I want? If yes then continue.
If no, ask what do I really “times 7” want? That is, take your desired outcome and multiply it by 7!
3. Focus on what you really “times 7” want. Ask yourself, “Am I taking the steps necessary to make that come true? What can I say – do – feel to put things into perspective?”
The next step involves the emotion that interferes with thoughts. Change your feeling of fear into desire. You will get a new perspective that will energize you and move you toward your outcome. Feel the fear and do it anyway!!!
Okay, you’ve identified what you want, you’ve redirected your fear, but something is still nagging at you. It is probably unfinished business. Close out unfinished business as it will distract your energies from your goal.
Following these basic steps will enable you to deal with the issues at hand and run over your fear!.
Bill McGrane is President of the McGrane Global Centers creators of the Making it Happen and Move Into Your Greatness. The Centers offers, keynotes, seminars, consulting and products that improve individual and organizational performance. You can create highly responsible teams and produce a culture of responsibility.
Call 859-384-6333 or mcgrane@mcgrane.com or view our web site at www.mcgrane.com
Secrets of America’s Highest – Performing Companies
Posted by: | CommentsWhy do some companies always seem to be at the top of the performance charts? No matter how you measure them, they always seem to excel. What secret do they have that others don’t?
When we decided to search for the secret of their success, we were surprised at how simple the answer was. Because what we found was so simple, we couldn’t believe so many companies don’t use this secret.
HINT #1: SUCCESS IS AN ACCIDENT!
An accident as a system? Although this is not the main secret, we discovered that learning by accident is the most implemented system used as a primary success development tool in today’s corporation. Does this sound familiar? “Well, that didn’t work, let’s try something else!”
High performance companies always seemed to have a system to produce success no matter what challenge they faced. The interesting part of this success pattern is that there was a lack of organization when their companies began… Read More→
